Is it acceptable to discipline someone else’s child, especially if your child is at risk of harm?
“It’s a really great line,” Dr. Flo Rosen, 70, a retired pediatrician and grandmother who goes on social media with Ask Bubbie, tells Today.com.
Rosen told Tiktok that her mother asked her for advice: Another child whose parents were nowhere to be seen was not bullying her young child in the park – was it okay for this mother to rebel the other children?
Yes, I concluded Rosen, but be careful.
“You never want to touch other people’s children, but can you talk to other people’s children and blame them? “It was really almost considered cooperative or ‘collective discipline.” If your grandmother is playing on the street and you don’t like what’s going on, they’ll comment and listen carefully. ”
Rosen’s advice in the video: “You have to protect your child, so… in such a situation, if other parents are not moving forward, if your child is at risk of being bullied or injured… you have to step up and your presence may be very close and enough to prevent less than good behavior.”
She said, “Otherwise it would certainly make sense to say things like, ‘In the park, we all in turn’ or ‘we’re all sharing.’ ” she added.
Then Rosen waits to make sure your child has his turn on the playground, for example.
What if that fails?
“The best thing to do is leave with your child,” Rosen said in the video.
“I don’t want your child to be punished because someone else wasn’t acting,” Rosen explained. “At that point, ‘Wow, what do you know… why don’t you get ice cream?” or ‘Why don’t we go to story time?’ or something you know you’ll like your child, distract your child and remove them from the situation. ”
Rosen added to the video: “That’s fine too. Then in a very quiet moment, “You know, I don’t think the other kids are very good because the other kids didn’t let you lose your turn. Everyone should share it when you’re in the park.”
The parents shared their opinions on Tiktok and Instagram where the clips were uploaded.
“I love this because it sets a scene for future social situations. No one should choose to be around unkind people.” “If you see my child cheating, go ahead… take the village.” “I had to leave the park with my granddaughter. I talked to two kids and was kind and tried to include them… They kept calling my granddaughter’s names. So we left. I was a teacher and I thought I could soften it. I was really shocked.” “I was a teenage boy fighting in a restaurant when a table full of older women stepped in. It stopped them with their truck.” “Don’t touch other people’s kids. I’ll never say. If a child is attacking my grandchild, I’ll touch the kids… I’ll take the kids away from mine.”
Rosen tells Today.com that it’s a balanced act.
If you leave with the kids, Rosen asks them: “If I didn’t intervene, how do you think I could have handled it?”
When are your kids ready to dodge themselves?
“If you are at risk of your child being physically or significantly emotionally hurting, you have to intervene,” she says. “If the child can say, ‘That’s not a good thing’ or ‘Don’t do it,’ you can wait and see what happens. ” Rosen says parents should teach their children the argument.
Can you stand up to other parents to avoid mediating? Listen to Bubby.
“If your parents don’t know enough to do the right thing, you probably won’t teach them to get mad at them on the playground,” says Rosen.
Additionally, other parents may blame you for lectures about their children.
“It’s going to be my backup,” Rosen admits. “Perhaps they’ll say, ‘If you’ve raised a child, I don’t need to.’ ”
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